Welcome! Hopping for Gay and Lesbian Visibility, Awareness and Equality



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Thank you for visiting my page today. May 17  is an International Day Against Homophobia, Transphobia, and Biphobia. A perfect day to kick off the hop.

I used to think tolerance was needed to change people’s attitudes towards the LGBTQ community. After all, the LGBTQ community has more visibility then ever. In television, movies, even computer games. Same-sex marriage is now federally mandated. Even with the strides the community has made over the years, there is still a ways to go before gay people (and I use this term in the broadest sense) are accepted into mainstream society. Tolerated, yes, but the fight for acceptance is still ongoing.

The definition of tolerance according to the dictionary is the ability or willingness to tolerate something, in particular the existence of opinions or behavior that one does not necessarily agree with. Okay. Sounds about right. For example: Someone might say: I tolerate my neighbor even though he’s gay. I might not like the fact he sleeps with men, but I won’t beat him up. Or bully him. But he shouldn’t have the same rights as me. I’m normal. Not him.

To me, that’s tolerance.

This should be good enough. Right?


What the world needs is more acceptance. The action of accepting someone as having equal rights even if they don’t follow their chosen path in life. To disenfranchise a segment of the population because they choose to love the same sex or believe they were born with the wrong gender, or any number of reasons, is horribly wrong.

I love living in a diverse world. How boring if we all were the same.

Love is love. Who you want to love is your business, not mine.

John Lennon said it best: Yeah we all shine on, like the moon, and the stars, and the sun. (He left no one out).

So do you think tolerance is an okay word to use when talking about equality, or do you prefer acceptance or some other term? Leave a comment for a chance to win one of my ebooks of your choice. You can see all my books listed here

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Viki Lyn

12 Responses to Welcome! Hopping for Gay and Lesbian Visibility, Awareness and Equality

  • Viki Lyn says:

    Thank you all for you insightful comments! I used the Random Generator and Suze is the winner of one of my ebooks of her choice. Congrats Suze. I will email you offline. Cheers and happy reading everyone! Viki

  • Sherry S. says:

    Thanks for being part of the hop. I like acceptance better.
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  • bn100 says:

    why not

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  • Emily says:

    I think tolerant is a good first step, but I think acceptance is what we should aim for as our overall goal. To me, tolerance is that you just put up with it, but you secretly don’t want to or you judge whatever you’re supposed to be tolerating. It’s a double-edged sword of a term; while you might not hurt or bully someone who’s gay, you may secretly judge them or even dislike them because you feel forced to put up with them. Whereas acceptance is a more peaceful and nicer term, one that means that not only do you tolerate something, but you accept that it happens and don’t really care. If it doesn’t concern you, then why do you need to weigh in? Some people are straight and some people are gay. Big deal.

    Great post Viki, thanks for sharing!


  • susana says:

    I think acceptance is the right word… To start with. We should move to inclusion and protection, so that everybody would feel cherished and looked after by their society, that would be what would turn our world into a better one.

  • Lee Todd says:

    I believe you can step through phases….as a 20 something I was fairly intolerant (definitely not hateful…but I couldn’t understand what was “wrong” with gay (and all other parts of the spectrum) people)

    as a 30 and 40 something I was tolerant (ok..you guys “should” be able to love whomever you want…it’s not like you’re doing anything to hurt me)

    as a late 40’s and 50 something I have moved into the acceptance phase (I WANT you to love whomever you want/choose..and I will support you all the way!) You should not have to live in fear for something that is not a choice. You are YOU and you should have the same freedom and equality to express that however you want. Love is Love!

  • Viki Lyn says:

    Such great comments. I will be thinking about what you’ve all said. And I’m changing my view from reading your insightful comments. Thank you!

  • Suze says:

    Hard to know what the right word is – or maybe there shouldnt be a word, just this is how it is.
    I like to encourage my kids (and myself) to live by the Do as you would be done by philosophy and to accept people as they are (you may not like them as a person but dont judge by what they are)

  • Cia Nordwell says:

    My view is that you can’t expect everyone to accept your choices as right or wrong but you can expect them to accept your choices as something only you have the right to decide. It’s your life, or my life, or someone else’s life… and nobody else gets to live it.

  • H.B. says:

    I think both words are fine in different contexts. Some people need time to adjust and to learn before they can come to acceptance. In a perfect world yes, acceptance would be what would be preferred but we’re not in a perfect world. If someone who was adamant about it before came to a more tolerable attitude than yes I’ll settle for tolerance.

  • Trix says:

    “Tolerance” always sounds so lukewarm and subtly disapproving…”acceptance” is definitely preferable!

  • laurie says:

    thank you for your wonderful post. i also do enjoy living in a wonderfuly diverse world just as you 🙂

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